You know what, whilst this is one of those “yeah but, think about what women face every day” things, there is still a fair degree of this.
I can think of literally one person who has ever called me handsome in a way that felt genuine, not even the girl I believe I loved, the best she could manage was “you aren’t so bad yourself”
Such is life.
Just gonna throw this out there, being checked out/whistled at/etc. by random strangers does NOT make me feel pretty it makes me feel objectified and afraid for my safety.
I agree with midgi. Every time some bloke yells from across the street at me my first thought isn’t ‘oh! he thinks I’m pretty!’ it’s ‘FUCK WHAT IS HE GONNA DO TO ME WHAT DO I DO SHOULD I JUST IGNORE HIM OR WILL HE COME AFTER ME???!?’
Don’t fucking do it. Just don’t.
Seconding all of the above! Plus, the idea that compliments are heaped upon all women constantly is ridiculous. I know plenty of women whose experiences are more like the described ~man~ one. And being defined and valued (or not valued) for your appearance first rather than… you know, on your merits as a person is not exactly a positive thing. Now if we’re going to argue for more compliments for everyone (that are sincere from people we know and trust which we feel comfortable receiving) that’s another thing, and I can get behind that, but the way this is framed is just… bad.
You’re completely right. I should feel okay that regular guys get no positive reinforcement from society, and I’m a terrible person for wanting to not feel physically repugnant.
Thanks for clearing that up for me.
